why women are always blamed..

assalamualaikum all..

i was ironing the pile of working attire this morning and it suddenly hit me..

why women are always blamed?

recently, i was told that a lady that i know found out that her husband is seeing another lady.. what occurred to me was: the guy is seriously insane and also ungrateful. i mean they have a kid together. the husband rarely sees the kid as they are not living together and from what i see, the kid feels awkward to be around the dad.

of course there two sides to every story.. but whatever the reasons are :you shouldn't cheat to your other half.

what would you do if somebody comes to you and tell you this? how would you react?

if you come to me with this kind of problem.. i would offer you sympathy and i would listen to your story without judging you and i will not take side. i wouldn't tell you to lose your weight, give you ridiculous tips regarding the intimate issues, and i would never tell you that you are the reason why your husband starts to look for another girl.

sometimes, people are very judgemental. who are we to judge anybody when Allah knows better?

i pray to Allah that my husband and i will be forever faithful to each other. amin.

mummyhood by ME!

assalamualaikum..

greetings all..

today when the kids were doing their essay, i was thinking about the happiest day of my life as well. well, for me i couldn't pick a specific day.. there many days that i felt like i'm on top of the world!

i think the title of the essay should have been.. the happiest day of my life so far..thehehe..

mine so far is the day i was awarded by God the title 'mum'.. so far nothing beats that feeling.. it probably will when zarief utters the word 'mummy' later.. =)

initially, i really don't get why being a mum is exciting.. and i felt that i wasn't ready to embrace motherhood.. until i found out that i was pregnant. well, since being pregnant is a total bliss for me (minus the monthly finger pricking.. tsk!) and a pregger should always be positive, i didn't really prepare myself for the worst. and then the bundle of joy arrived.. that changed my life totally! i mean you have a tiny helpless baby who depends on you to live now..

remember the part that i said about not ready to embrace motherhood and not really preparing for the worst? well, those are total CRAP! whether you're ready or not, expect it or unexpect it.. the baby is here and he is the boss now. so the best thing for me to do was to take it one step at a time. i admit it's easier said than done.. at first i thought the baby was so alien and i still can't believe that he's mine. i bade farewell to the long 8 hours of sleeping when i was pregnant.. now i wake up every two hours for feeding. bahaha..

please do not be mistaken for the feelings that i had for my baby. he's never a burden.. even when he wailed his lung out and cry bloody murder, even he refused to sleep when i was really tired.. you'll love him no matter what.. i think only mummies could do that.. mummies get lesser sleep but praise to Allah that it's sufficient still..

that's why mummyhood is very challenging yet rewarding.. i pray that all my friends will be able to experience mummyhood because there are not enough words to describe it. for me it involve lots of sacrifices and tears too.. =) and i'm sure all the mummies have different experiences but still they are priceless!

i'm enjoying mummyhood to the max! alhamdulillah.

toodles!